The Marriage Project | Colin & Sara

Colin and Sara have been married for about a year and a half. We've known them for most of our lives, and their wedding was the second wedding we ever shot together. We even got to dance to One Direction when we were off the clock at the end of the night.

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They're definitely one of those opposites-attract phenomenons. They can't keep their hands off each other, and have been able to talk about anything from when they first became friends, but they actually have nothing really in common except for being married and loving and serving God.

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Colin is a pretty laid-back, introvert landscaper, and Sara is a go-getter, out-going cosmetologist. He's into football, rap, poker, & video games. She loves concerts, Taylor Swift, celebrity gossip, and fashion. She runs 5+ miles a day, but he's into more competitive ball-games.

Somehow though, talking and spending time together is their favorite and being married is easy. 

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HOW HE DESCRIBES HER

A really pleasant woman.

 

HOW SHE DESCRIBES HIM

Insightful and generous. He can read people pretty spot-on, while she tends to believe everyone is amazing.

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NEW THINGS LEARNED

She learned she's a control freak.

He learned that womens' hormones aren't a myth.

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DATES

Picnics by the river. Sushi. But often, Redbox & popcorn at home.

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FAVORITE THINGS ABOUT MARRIAGE

Hanging out all day and then not having to drive home. Living with your best friend. Having your person. 

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FAVORITE MEMORIES

Their honeymoon in Hawaii. (They're big believers in laying out in the sun for hours).

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WHO IS THE MESSIEST?

Him.

 

WHO IS BETTER AT KEEPING SECRETS?

Him. He'll keep a secret forever. She's a self-proclaimed blabbermouth.

 

WHO KILLS THE SPIDERS?

They don't bother killing them usually. But he is definitely the mouse-killer. 

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HE LOVES

That she is so encouraging. That she keeps the house clean, & washes the dishes (they made a he-vacuums-if-she-washes-the-dishes-deal, because he hates handwashing dishes). 

 

SHE LOVES

That he makes sure to kiss her before leaving for work and first thing when he gets home. That he believes in public-displays-of-affection, and is very physically affectionate to her. Growing up, she thought this was normal because of her parents, but she's realized that it's actually kind of rare.

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MARRIAGE ADVICE

His: PMS is not a joke. 

Hers: Be gracious to your husband--don't think he's trying to be a jerk. They don't think in the same way that women do.

When you ask him "what are you thinking about?" and he says "nothing", he's not lying. Men are actually capable of thinking about nothing.

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HIS ADVICE FOR WIVES

Challenge your husbands. Men need something to rise to. It's not nagging when you encourage him towards things by planting seeds. 

 

HER ADVICE FOR HUSBANDS

Think of your marriage as a bucket. It's full of love at first, but things in life will make holes in it--bills, jobs, the busyness of having kids, etc. You have to always be pouring into the bucket with things like affection, dates, and intentionally working on your relationship. You never "arrive".

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COMMUNICATION

Talk often! Put effort into really paying attention to your spouse.

Don't assume your husband knows what you're thinking about.

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THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF MARRIAGE

Serving each other, and serving God together. Glorifying God, instead of making marriage all about you.

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Peter Mahar - Destination Wedding Photographer - Portland OR